Although I’m a solution focused coach who likes to see progress and things moving forward, I’ve learned that sometimes we need to retreat. Step back, step off, step away!
It’s good to do what’s required, to meet our responsibilities to others, to feel competent and productive. It’s equally good to meet our responsibilities to ourselves, to feel the depth of our feelings and hear our own thoughts.
Moving through this latest life transition, has kept me busy. I’ve had to find a new home and make it mine, create a new workspace, continue to relate to family and friends, and keep the business going. I’ve been doing it all and doing it well while dealing with the intense emotions associated with starting life in a new direction. Then…
I hit a wall of fatigue and sorrow brought on by all the things that have happened over the past couple of years. I felt fragile, broken down. I simply couldn’t will myself to keep going at the usual pace any more. I expressed my frustration to dear friends who repeated the same message. Honour what’s happened. Take your time, take some space.
I did just that and retreated. Focused on what was most important, asked for help with tasks that were less critical, dropped the things that didn’t matter. As I reflected, I realized that I was broken open. Broken open to experience life differently, more profoundly, and more compassionately. It hasn’t been easy and it isn’t all over, but this retreat has moved me towards strength and resilience in a way that making myself “just do it” would have never accomplished.
As my energy and sense of well being returns, I’m taking it more slowly and more mindfully. I’m relishing the quiet moments, counting my blessings, letting in the love and support of all the dear people in my life. No longer broken, I’m on the mend, returning home to myself in ways I never dreamt possible. Moving forward again, but this time less frantically, more deliberately as I put all the essential elements back into my life. And I still take some time each day to continue the retreat, just for a little while.